We spend so much of a child’s first 18 years making sure they’re proficient in everything we’ve decided they’ll need in life that we don’t hear them when they try and tell us what they want. And, thus, what they’ll actually need.
Kids have interests, passions, hopes and dreams…and if we listen in we’ll realise they’re actually pretty serious about them from quite early on. But when the good-grade pressure kicks in the dreams often start gathering dust, and then…well…someone else starts shaping new ones for us. Usually, dreams that are more ‘practical’ and ‘sensible’. We don’t really even know it’s happening until we look back later in life, reminiscing within ourselves about the things we really wanted to spend our time exploring.
“If only someone had seen the musical spark in me that was waiting to ignite…I spent so much time trying to play catchup on maths, hating the pressure and feeling like a failure…how different life could have been…”
Note to self for 2019: double down on helping my kids explore what they love, including the skills, knowledge and methods they’ll need to go deep, and back right off on the rest.